Why Does My Cat Not Sleep with Me Anymore?

Some people like having their cats in their room overnight, some don’t.

If you’re on the side that likes it, but your cat has started sleeping somewhere else and has left you wondering, ‘Why does my cat not sleep with me anymore?’

I can help.

There’s always a reason why a cat chooses to sleep where they are. If you want your cat back by your side while you’re sleeping, here are some of the reasons (and solutions) to explain their behavior:

6 Reasons Why You Cat Probably Isn’t Sleeping with You Anymore (And How to Resolve It)

You’re Fidgeting Too Much

No one wants to be kicked, nudged, and pushed around while trying to sleep – least of all cats. Most cats have little patience for being disturbed once they’re nice and comfy. I know mine don’t stand for it.

If you’re a fidgeter, your cat will likely find somewhere else to sleep where they don’t get woken during the night.

Who can blame them?

If you’re telling yourself you don’t fidget during the night, I’d check with your partner if you have one. I was convinced I didn’t move around much, but apparently, I’m quite the shuffler while I’m sleeping!

But what would I know, I’m asleep…

They’ve Found Somewhere Better

This is something that can dent a cat owner’s ego, but the reason might simply be because your cat has found somewhere they like better than your bed.

There may or may not have been a reason why they found somewhere else. But if they are sleeping in the same spot every night, it’s just more appealing to them for some reason.

Cats choose some of the craziest places to sleep too. I could list a number of strange places my cats have chosen over a comfy bed, such as;

• By a door (acting as a draft excluder)
• In the bathroom sink – This post explains why cats sleep in sinks
• In the laundry basket
• On the stairs – Serious trip hazard here
• On top of my TV

.. and the list goes on.

Why cats choose some places that are seemingly uncomfortable is one of the wonderful mysteries that surround our furry friends. You can place them on your comfy bed all you want, if they prefer somewhere else that’s just how it is.

It’s Getting Tough to Jump onto the Bed

If you have an aging cat and it’s starting to become difficult for them to jump on and off your bed some other places might seem more appealing.

It could even be due to a health issue that’s causing them some pain or discomfort. So, it’s worth giving your cat a good check over to see if there’s anything bothering them.

If your feline is entering their senior years and you both still enjoy sleeping on the bed, there are some things you can do to help them out. I use a small set of pet stairs (see image above), I have a sausage dog and two elderly cats use them to get on to my bed.

If you want a similar set of pet stairs to give you cats easy access to your bed you can get them on Amazon by clicking here (or clicking the image below).

Something Spooked Them

If something spooks a cat they can hold onto this trauma and associate it with where they were and what they were doing at the time.

This means, if they were relaxing on your bed and something suddenly freaked them out, they might not return to your bed. This is particularly true for cats that are sleeping. Cats are at their most vulnerable when they’re sleeping, so getting spooked while sleeping will have a lasting effect.

You may or may not have noticed what spooked them. It could have been a loud noise, another pet pouncing on them, or maybe you kicked them in your sleep (see the first point above).

They may return to sleeping on your bed after a little time and reassurance. If you really want to help, you may see some positive results by changing the layout of your room so it feels different to them.

It’s Too Hot / Too Cold

If we get too hot during the night we can throw off the duvet. Or, if we’re too cold we can add more layers. What options do cats have if they’re uncomfortable due to either of these things?

They can move on to somewhere cooler or warmer, that’s what.

I’m not suggesting you regulate the temperature in your room to suit your cat. That’s a stretch. But it’s worth considering if you’re trying to find out why your cat isn’t sleeping in your room any longer.

Have you spotted a seasonal trend? Are they more likely to be found on your bed in the winter? Summer? It’s something to think about.

Wondering what the ideal room temperature is for cats? Here’s a look at the ideal room temperature for cats in winter.

It’s Not High Enough for Them

Cats like being up high when they sleep. It’s part of their innate behavior to find somewhere high to sleep as they feel safer.

This behavior can be tied back to their wild ancestors and how cats behave in the wild. When sleeping they need to be somewhere they can spot danger approaching or feel like they’re tucked away.

Obviously, there are no such dangers around the home. But it’s one of the many instinctual behaviors domestic cats display around the home.

How Do I Get My Cat to Sleep with Me?

If your cat used to sleep with you but isn’t any longer, there are some ways you can make that spot on your bed more appealing to them.

After all, it’s comforting having our fluffy friends nearby at night. I know I like it. I find their purring really soothing, and a little extra warmth is always welcome.

Looking at the reasons I outlined above, if you can pinpoint a reason why they’re not sleeping on your bed, you can then do something about it. If you’re not sure of the reason, here are some things you can do;

• Try and get them into a bedtime routine and bring them up when you go to bed
• Place a blanket on your bed for them to sleep on. Cats are attracted to different textures.
• If they have a favorite toy, place it on the bed for them to play with.
• Put a perch in your room near your bed, this gives them some of their own space up high
• If you want to be really persuasive, reward them with treats when they are on your bed

In Summary

There you go, a bunch of reasons why your cat does not sleep with you anymore, and some solutions to encourage them to come back.

Most cats want cuddles and company throughout the night just as much as owners do. It’s all about making a nice spot on your bed where they can get quality sleep and feel comfortable.